Combative

I was told that I was being combative today. It is impossible to refute the accusation because you are being combative by refuting.

I'm thinking about this and I think I know what the real problem is, or at least a factor.

I don't feel I'm being listened to. Because I'm not being heard, I'm getting combative in an attempt to be heard. Which just makes it all worse.

I'm starting to think that maybe I shouldn't talk if no one is going to listen .